joyful girl

we owe each other the world. the world owes us nothing.

112536012853704196 August 29, 2005

Filed under: Uncategorized — amyjoyfox @ 7:54 pm

thugs making rugs

this morning i drive an hour and a half to see one of my kids – an 18-year-old boy in residential drug rehab. he’s essentially and orphan – his mom, stepdad, brother and stepbrother have all died, and he doesn’t really have a relationship with his biological father. he has a history of felony charges, mostly related to burglaries that seemed like a good idea when he was high. he’s from “the bottoms,” which is sort of a violent, appalachian ghetto at its worst, and his family has had a lot of violence. (his older brother threatened my life at one point.) but this kid is one of the gentlest, most responsible kids i know. the staff at his treatment facility never have any concerns, and he’s a role model for the other kids.

anyway, i was talking to him about his schedule this morning, and he mentioned that every afternoon he does “clean and sobers.” clean and sobers are activities to practice having fun without using drugs. i asked him what he does, and he says, “watch movies, play board games, crochet…” as it turns out, my boy is a crochet maniac. he’s made fluffy yarn pillows for his sisters, and showed me the most beautiful afghan that he’s working on. the kid is a crafting genius! (i crochet, but i really only have the patience for hats and scarves.) his counselor told me that all of the boys are doing it, and they call it “thugs making rugs.”

that was, most definitely, the highlight of my day.


2 Responses to “112536012853704196”

  1. Fred Johnson Says:

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  2. Fred Johnson Says:

    I liked this story. And I’ll point Molly to it, cos she’ll double like it.

    I also liked the crazy linguistic ironies inherent in the phrase “a violent, appalachian ghetto.” Now, the thing itself is not something to like, of course. But let’s talk language. “Appalachian” for mountains for frontier for freedom for exploration for Americana dreaming; but paired with violence. Then “ghetto,” a word that has its origins in the segregation of Jews in a 16th century Venice very, very far removed from any culture ever rooted in Appalachia. And plus the combo of Appalachia, which has mountain/nature connotations, paired with “ghetto,” which has city connotations. Well, its a linguistiucally ironic gobstopper. Stops my gob, I tellya.

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